Friday, June 22, 2012
Who's out there listening?
I just have one thing to say. Please comment. I know someone is reading this, but no one ever leaves comments. I feel kinda vulnerable here and I wonder what others think about the stuff I've been writing. Plus it would be nice to know what else you guys would like to read about. I mostly flow with what's happening in my life or on my mind. If you have a special request, want me to talk about something or have questions, this is your chance. Speak up!
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I'm a mature married black man and I discovered your blog about twenty minutes ago. I've been reading posts from your archive etc. I, too, noticed the absence of comments. If I hadn't come across this post from June I may have not commented but after reading your brief entry I felt I had to respond. I like your writing style and what you are writing about. Don't stop!
Thanks for reading! I was wondering when someone would start commenting lol. I get visitors, but no one ever says anything. Thank you for your compliments. Is there anything you would like me to post next? I'm always looking for inspiration. I'm also about to host a contest soon, so keep an eye out for that.
Thank you asking but I don't have any requests. Your life experiences seem to be sufficient stimuli for you and I don't have any particular fetishes, sexual or otherwise, I'm looking to fulfill here. I am glad to have found your blog and I sincerely wish that other people, especially African Americans, are reading and thinking about the issues you are tackling. There is far, far too much denial, dissembling, rationalizing, confusion and fear among our people about the things you are writing about. More honesty and clarity is what we need.
"You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them they should've behaved better."
Anne Lamott
I keep trying to come up with new things to write about. I've had a lot of sexual experiences, but I try to find a context to place them in rather than just posting about my sexual partners.
You touch on a point I've been trying to make repeatedly here. In A Letter to my readers (http://craigslistsexcapades.blogspot.com/2012/07/letter-to-my-readers.html), I talk about that. A lot of people don't want to hear or talk about these issues. So many of us are afraid to confront certain things because we feel that to shed light on those dark corners would confirm the stereotypes that America has about black people.
We're considered oversexed or amoral, and I really hope that my blog helps people to see the humanity behind the things I have done. I'm not just my genitals. I have a mind, interests, goals and ones that I love. I'm a person. Awesome quote btw! I loved her book, Operating Instructions. It helped me laugh my way through postpartum depression and to get help when I was having a rough time.
I'm not a racist and don't harbor any negative feelings about white people based solely on the difference between the color of my skin and their skin but black folks really do need to give up white folks if they expect to get out from under the accumulated debris. What I mean is that we have to stop worrying about what white people will think about what we say, do or even think about. The reality is that many millions of white people won't draw any negative conclusions about us as a result of us discussing issues of paramount importance to us. As for those who would draw negative conclusions, so what?
BTW, I do have a question for you and would appreciate your response. What do you think about posting a profile photograph of oneself on an online adult dating site? I'm not comfortable with having my mug displayed when I'm trying to be as discreet as I possibly can in looking for intimacy outside of my marriage. Anyway, that's my question.
Most whites aren't really paying that much attention to us. Those that propagate negative views would be racist without any additional input from us. We really need to come from under our mental chains and get these issues out in the open.
I do a lot of reading on sexual addiction, sex politics and incest, and too often there are few if any black voices adding to the discussions. We need to discuss these things, as our silence is killing our people. I read about the huge rate of hiv among black gay men in DC and I wanted to cry. Some of that is because we aren't able or willing to air our dirty laundry, so things just get swept under the carpet. People are made to feel less than or that they need to hide who they are. It should never be that way.
I post pictures, but then I'm single. I was chatting with a married man for awhile who decided not to post pictures to his public profile for the same reasons as you. You could put down the fact that you are married, and add that you have private pictures you would like to share. Pof.com allows you to attach private pictures to messages. That might help when you send icebreakers. Feel free to email me as well, as I could tell you additional tips to get started.
Thank you! Where do I find your email address?
Just click contact and it should go right to me. It's the icon that looks like an envelope. Click that and you can email me. :) It's right under the social media icons (twitter, facebook and RSS) on the upper right corner.
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