Saturday, June 16, 2012

My experiences on pof.com

I finally decided to venture off Craigslist for awhile. It's very hard to find what I want, and it seems the same people post there and reply. I decided to go with pof.com as I see the name pop up all the time and some people have had good experiences. My primary reason for using it is to find more sex partners, so I think this could work for me. Within a few hours, my mail box was overflowing and I still haven't responded to everyone.

My ad states that I'm a black woman looking for a black man, but for some reason stating that always drives tons of white men my way. I have no idea why lol. I get a lot of love knows no color responses, and "I love black women". For years I mainly dated white men, but I decided to stop and go back to dating only black guys. Plus I watch a lot of black porn, so I think this has some factor in it. When you live in a predominately white neighborhood, seeing and interacting with mainly whites, it can allow you to fetishize something you shouldn't. Things like race, color, shape etc. People are human beings, not parts to help you reach an orgasm.

I met some pretty cool guys. One tried to convince me that his spirituality would make him the perfect man to sleep with. Slowly it went from talks of auras and moon crystals, to pussy, blow jobs and doggy style. Amazing. Another one I like was a black guy who lives a few minutes from me. However, I did not appreciate his attempts to manipulate me into sex with him, even though I was saying no. The craziest response was from the man fresh out of prison. He put it out there that he wanted sex and asked if I could help him out. I felt bad for the guy in the wheelchair, and was halfway tempted to help him out.

All in all, I got a good mix of guys to choose from. Unfortunately, no women. For some reason, you can't list yourself as open to women, if you show yourself as open to men. These past few days I've become more accepting of myself as not a lesbian, but closer to bisexual. My father is bisexual, as are several cousins. I also have a gay great-grandfather and a multitude of gay and lesbian cousins. It runs in the family. Rather than judge myself, I'm trying to be more accepting. I do prefer women to men, but men are mostly what's available to me right now. I just have to overcome the programming that says bisexuals are diseased and whores. Funny how I'm doing my damnedest to prove the whores part.

4 comments:

Ms.Anne_Thrope said...

I am SOOOOO glad I found your blog! Keep it up, sweetie!

Unknown said...

Thank you! There are so many people out there with the same experiences and similar stories. I just wanted to let people know that they are not alone or weird. Keep reading, and if you have any post suggestions, let me know.

Unknown said...

If you say "I want X" they hear it as a challenge to convince you you want Y... it's egomania. If you ever do figure out where it is that bi/gay women hangout online, I'd like to hear about it.

Side note: If you list yourself, on most booty forums, as bisexual seeking women you get three times as many responses from men ;)

Unknown said...

I don't get why men do that online. If I list something specific, respect me enough to pass me by if you can't offer me that. I do it when I see ads that I know aren't for me. I'm not 5'7, 34-26-34 and a size 6. If an ad says that, I close it down and go look at others. Most men don't give me that same type of respect. They see, "fat girl", and think I'm desperate and an easy target.

I should list myself as bisexual lol. I might get some female responses that way too! I haven't seen any good places online for dating bisexual or gay women. I wish there was a booty call site for them too! Supposedly, all these closeted women are setting up hook ups online, but I haven't come across one yet!

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