Adult breastfeeding resources

I came up with this list for people who are interested in and aren't sure where to get started. I came across a lot of them while I was searching for an ANR (adult nursing relationship) close to me. Towards the end, I included a few of my favorite videos. Enjoy!

The Land of Milk and Honey, is an all around useful resource. Not only is there articles and information on getting started, there are personal experiences, a message board and a very useful personals section. Ads are free and limited to one per person. There's also a gallery of very tasteful, though still NSFW pictures that you can view.

If you have an account with Yahoo, Adult Breastfeeding Personals can be worth a look. With over 3,000 members, you may find success finding a nursing partner. For support and general discussions of adult breastfeeding, Adult Breastfeeding Relationship Groups is a good group to try. There are discussions of breastfeeding groups and ANR issues in general. You're not allowed to promote groups or ask for partners, but you can make direct contact after you've established yourself on the board.

This next one seems strange, but if you are looking for factual and detailed information, especially if you are trying to re-lactate or have never breastfed before, this is your go to resource. La Leche League (The Milk League) was founded by a group of mothers interested in learning how to nurse their babies in an era where that was discouraged. It has since grown and there is information on extended and tandem nursing. And some adoptive moms are able to provide milks to their babies because of the guidance of the kind ladies here. It has published several books which can be purchased pretty cheaply online, especially used.

Those should get you off to a good start. I will update this guide with more as I come across sites. Here's a few of my favorite videos. Assume they are NSFW, as I don't want an email from anyone complaining to me about getting in trouble at work!:


This is a very sexy video of an older Asian woman nursing at the breasts of a younger one. There is some sex. This next one is a great compilation of nursing and pumping videos from an erotic perspective. The user has about 3 more videos like this one. Lastly, I enjoyed watching this one. The scene where she stands up and starts dripping everywhere was an enormous turn on for me. It's been very refreshing to get past my squeamish and to enjoy seeing others have this experience.

A short intro to adult breastfeeding

As I stated before in another post, I've experimented with adult breastfeeding. I struggled a bit with using breast milk in my sexual relationships. I chose to be in denial even when it was obvious that Alain was suckling more than his own spit at my breasts. The 'mmms' should have clued me in. An ex of mine explicitly asked that I continue expressing milk when he was away from me, as he wanted to enjoy plentiful milk during our times together. I think part of my discomfort stemmed from the belief that my breasts and milk should only be used to nourish my child. I struggle with expressing my sexuality while pregnant and nursing. These experiences stretched my conception of myself as a sexual being and a mother, and were pretty hot as well.

Some couples use breastfeeding as a way to share intimacy with each other. It can make the one nursing feel nurtured and can bring out maternal feelings in the one doing the nursing. Oxytocin is released during several life experiences. Sex, childbirth, orgasm and nursing. This hormone makes the woman feel relaxed and calm and helps bond mother to infant during birth and while breastfeeding.

One of the best ways to make milk is to be pregnant or to give birth. While it is not a requirement, having the body make the physical and hormonal changes need for nursing over 9 months makes it easier for the breasts to make milk. Adoptive mothers who have never been pregnant or older women, have been able to make milk with enough stimulation of their areola. See, breast milk isn't expressed by suckling at the nipples. It takes repeated sessions of nursing at the areola, or dark area surrounding the nipple, for the brain to get the signal to make milk. Nipples don't push out milk. The milk 'lets down' during suckling which can feel like tingling or even painful at first. The aveoli which store the milk (think tiny bunches of grapes) squeeze out the milk once they receive the signal that it is needed. Aggressive nipple sucking will lead to only one thing: Sore nipples.

Some nursing couples find the greatest success with a schedule. Scheduling in regular nursing sessions makes it easier on the woman as she is less likely to become engorged. The other partner will probably appreciate frequent nursing as the more nursing there is, the more milk is produced. In a few weeks, I will produce a second part to this which expands on this more.